My dearest boyfie @pajeeebar,
Today is your 21st birthday! Do you feel old yet? No? Well that’s good because you are not allowed to get old yet. We haven’t had kids (LOL) and you’ll wait for me until I get that MD so you have to stay young and active and silly until you’re at least 60…no, 70. Whatever. =)
On a serious note…
Babe, meeting you was a blessing and being engaged (HAHAHAHA) to you is the best thing in my life. You love me just the way God created me— with every scar and imperfection. You make me want to be a better person, and you try your absolute hardest to make me happy, even when I’m being stubborn and pouty and difficult… which is often. Hahaha!
I love every day I get to spend with you even-though we’re in a situation where doubt and fear is always there (LDR eh). You were my constant GI quiz-mate and we make a great team (as always) I imagine us when we have kids; when they’re old enough, we can dig out the almanacs and encyclopedias and teach them our techniques. The thought of it excites me! =)
I love our adventures. I always think about all the great places we have been together. But more than that, I appreciate the little things like going to our favorite food hub and tambayan. We are contented with simply just strolling and walking around and it doesn’t matter where we are going as long as we are together. It is being with you that fills me with so much joy.
You are one amazing man and I am one lucky guy to get to spend the rest of my days with you! I am forever thankful and honored to be your Boyfie. I feel like my life just started and I can’t wait for all the years we have ahead of us.
Happy Happy Birthday, babe! Thanks for making me the happiest guy in the world. I love you to the moon and back! I miss you so much and see you soonest! ❤️😍😘🌹🎊🎉🎈🎂
Your future MD,
Up Dharma Down on stage! Best Thursday night ever!!! 😊 #BlackSeptember #FEUNRMFMedWeek #ChillNight (at Bear’s Grill, Timog Avenue, QC)
Congratulations to my very athletic and competitive Papa for making it to the 21K National Finals. I’m so proud of you! Keep it up! #FitAndRight #MiloMarathon 👍🎊👟 (at Bicol Naga City)
I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff. – Jon Katz #Tbt (at Bicol University)
What does it take to be a great doctor?
Inspired by Patch Adams (Movie)
“You treat a disease, you win, you lose. You treat a person, I’ll guarantee you’ll win, no matter what the outcome.”
As a medical student of about two months, one question would always cross my mind, “What does it take to be a great doctor?” Does it mean that I have to stay up all night and read Guyton, or chunk on Nescafe latte like there’s no tomorrow to keep me awake and energized? Do I have to sacrifice quality time with my friends and isolate myself in a bed of transes just so I could stay in the game? Just so I could affix those two letters after four years? After just two months of staying here in FEU-NRMF, I have learned a lot about this field. I learned that all those statements above are true and this ‘appetizer’ to the ‘main course’ of the practice of medicine entails a lot of sacrifices.
Reading the above paragraph, my train of thoughts could easily be of Phillip Seymour Hoffman’s in the movie, Patch Adams. I could be the one who always has to shape up so that I could fulfill my dream of being a doctor. At the moment, everything is a struggle for me. I have realized that I could easily be left behind if I don’t double the effort I put into studying. The confrontation between him and Patch was one of the strongest scenes in the movie that affected me as a medical student because it actually relates to what I am currently feeling.
Medical school is by far one of the most challenging things, if not the most, that I have experienced in my life. It is definitely not a walk in the park, or a spur of the moment thing to do. I feel left behind by my classmates who easily get the topic and ace the quizzes and exams. I envy how they thrive and survive. I envy how they easily do it while I have to maximize my time, sleep later than usual or usually not sleep at all. I feel terrified and I currently doubt myself if I could still do it. To top it all, I am just on my two months.
In the first few scenes of the movie, Patch got his nickname from his brilliant and life-changing interaction with Arthur Mendelson. I personally learned a lot from this scene because I can now follow his mantra of not focusing on the problem, but instead on finding the solution. It may sound very simple but the way it pierced me made me see life in another light. I have always been the type of person who dwells so much on the negativity of life. It consumes me so much that I tend to halt without even trying to do something. Now that I heard some sort of enlightenment from Arthur, I am very much eager to apply it. Maybe that is what we are supposed to do, to look past the problem and spend all our energies instead in finding the solution. I may be having difficulty with my studies as of the moment but I better ask myself if I am doing something to make it better. Because as of the moment, all I do is rant that everything is difficult and I am way behind my classmates. That’s not how life is supposed to be.
I guess this is my wake up call to start anew. This is the point in my life where I have to start doing something to solve the problems that I have. Dwelling too much on the negativeness in life will just suck out the remaining happy thoughts in me and the energy that I should have used instead in studying. I have to move on with my life because I am not the only person in the world who has problems. There are far more people having difficulties that are between life and death. I have to stop making it all about me because the path that I am taking is directed not to myself but for the service of people who needs me.
Patch had problems himself but he chose to make a difference. I, on the other hand is a lucky soul for I have the capabilities to succeed and it is only myself who hinders my full potential. My parents have always been very supportive of me and it is only I who make things complicated due to self-pressure. I have been given a lot of gifts to use and I must start enhancing them for the future. As I have said, the career that I have chosen involves a lot of other people and not just my family and I.
One of my strong points as a person is my ability to connect with people. I have been given the gift to make instant connections and the tongue to construct stories to start a conversation. You can therefore say that I am a people-person. In the movie, it was emphasized how valuable personal touch is in healing. Contrary to the traditional manner of molding a doctor, Patch was a firm believer that personal interaction with patients is the key to healing. I share the same sentiment as it has been constantly said that no man is an island and that we are our brother’s keeper. We are the guardians of our own humanity. We have to survive by dealing with people and if you are doctor and you do not really ‘see’ your patient then you shouldn’t be a doctor in the first place.
When the time comes that I become a full-pledged doctor, I know it in my heart already how I wanted myself to be. More than just a bed number or a case to be solved, I want to have a deeper understanding of the condition of my patient – not the disease, but the story. I learned from my medical ethics and intro to physical diagnosis class how a patient’s history can actually help in treating not only the disease but also the person. There are vital information that you may miss if you do not personally interact with them, plus the fear that they have can be easily shaken off when you get to know them better and have them see you as a friend and not just their doctor. If a person is your friend, he will give you his trust and that is one of the most important things a doctor can ask from his patient, trust. In the future, I want my patients to believe in me, as this would be a great motivation to push harder.
Aside from this, I believe that humor will also be very important in dealing with patients. People who do not know me personally perceive me as snob and serious, but close friends and family can attest to how goofy and funny I am. Perhaps, this is due to my face which always seems to look pensive. In the movie, it was emphasized how proper disposition can lead you to places in terms of healing a patient. Having a good outlook can somehow reduce the stress a person you interact with has. Realizing this, I have to be more cheerful and positive although as of the moment, there is a dark cloud above me. I tend to cry when things do not turn out the way they’re supposed to be but I have to change this attitude because it will take me nowhere. It is better to have a resounding positive vibe for everything. I have two mantras in life which I deeply hold onto: (1) Be so kind that no one can reject you; and (2) Be so good that they need to work with you. These two are part of my belief system that I know will help me be whatever I wanted to be in the future.
So now I ask myself again, what does it take to be a great doctor? A SOUND MIND, A BIG HEART, and a lot of caffeinated fuids (this is true by the way). It will really take a lot of effort to become one. But I am on my way of achieving my dreams. I just have to find the perfect balance and to get the hang of things. Relatively, studying is easier because it will be a lot more difficult having a patient and not knowing the answer because you missed out on something in medical school. It is not only knowing the answers to every question – you have to know how to deliver it, connect with your patient, and assure him that everything will be better. That’s why I like to be a doctor – you have no other option but to be positive and good. Just imagine if the world is just filled with people who have a positive outlook in life who just want to help, life will definitely be better for everyone.
"Through hardships to the stars!"
Challenge accepted! Can you whip it? Because I did! #Kalbo 🐣🙊👍 (at East Fairview, Quezon City)
Drew blood for the first time today!!! Who’s next in line?! Lol! 🔪💉 #Success #Med #Venipuncture #Hema #Physio
(at FEU-NRMF Medical Center)
Before prelims faces! #FridayMadness #1D #MedLife (at Tri Mo Shawarma Co., Lagro, Fairview)
Don’t give up, the beginning is always the hardest. (at FEU-NRMF Medical Center)
It’s now starting to hit me!!! And just like that my entire life has changed. What was once a dream is now starting to be my reality. What once was nothing, now is everything. Thank you GOD for making everything possible…I know this will be the start of something great. Thank you Lord. ALL GLORY IS YOURS. #MD #FEU #NRMF #DrCorpus #JustBelieve #Thankful #2014MD507 #ItWillBeWorthIt 😆📚🔬😷💉💊🏥
(at East Fairview, Quezon City)
Sweetest surprise ever. Thank you so much handsome, @pajeeebar 😍😭💕 I love you!!! 😘💋💐 (at Em’s Barrio Legazpi City)
💯🙌 (at SM MOA Seaside)
David Levithan kind of Monday morning, plus reading messages I got few days ago. Oh what a way to start my day! #BoyMeetsBoy (at Sunny Villas Condo)
I just want to take the time out to say, Happy Mother’s Day to the woman who’s had my back when I didn’t even have my own. I Love You, Mama. Thanks for inspiring me everyday. You’re beyond amazing!❤ (at At Home